Real love _ love time
One is real love that I think, there should be a kind of most important passion inside it, the passion offered, the passion devoted in other words. This sound it seems to be ethical preach, but you think about it carefully, real love such actually. What if you have really fallen in love with a person, will you contain and can not want to do for her, want to make her happy, must have such a strong hope and and does not really ask reciprocating. The love should essentially be offered, it is the passion of a kind of devotion, the passion of this kind of devotion does not start from the idea, not starting from the ethics, it is not to start from responsibility, totally start from the emotion. If say alone that loves you, but only want to occupy, only want to let you pay, he has no passion offered, I think that is probably mainly lust, it is the love that far from.
There is a kind of person in the world, he may never offer, that is a kind of selfish person, he and everyone are like this, do not say he does not love you, even he loves a person very much, can be regarded as liking very much for he, he remains it like this. He belongs to that kind without caring about others' person, the totally self- centre, it is possible for you
Will run into such a person. If has run into such a person, certainly you think that can accept, should be all right, but you should have a mental preparation, bear that result. I think such a person is the ability to lack love, if you let me offer advice, I advise you to give up. This is a kind of situation. Another situation is, he is a more normal person, it is not very selfish that I mean, he has ability to offer, if his true love, he would like to offer, but he does not have this kind of impulse offered to you, he does not want to do for you anything. If is this kind of situation, I think I can judge, he has not really fallen in love with you, the intensity that loves at least is weaker.
I think two people, when being in love, these kind pay each other, there is these kind of passion paid each other, aching each other, you love him dearly, he aches too, you, this is very important. Love a person, this is a reliable sign of love, it is the most natural revealment of an emotion to love, it is really from the deep of the heart. In the real love, it must be distressed each other. I believe everybody want, ache, nobody strong to reach these kind of stage in the world, he does not want to be ached. I have said, in this world, everybody is the orphan, you grow while coming down to stark-naked come, come from not having, to get back to finally not to have. When you suffer great disaster, none of parents' arms can protect you, how many children have got hopeless case you thought in the world, the parents does not have no way out yet. Then are not you the same when growing up in fact? You, when growing up, you meet unresistable natural and man-made calamities, who can protect you. So I say, in fact everybody is lonely, everybody is the orphan, everybody needs someone to ache. Then, in the course in love, I think a kind of normal relation should be that you love him dearly, he loves you dearly too.
If a person does not ache to another person very much, I think that there is a question inside, may not just love enough. Often someone asks this question: When two people are in love, really is it important or important the love to love? For example saying, I have made friends with him, I love him very much, he seems that a little loves me, but must not love very much, but I love him very much, I will make a decision at this time, finally easy with him. Certainly, if I really love him very much, that even if he did not love me very much, I too would rather bear, I might determine, continue, follow him to be kind if so. However, if is this kind of situation, how long I suspect very much it can be good. Sometimes, this is a kind of compromise having to do, if there can be more choices, this kind of compromise will be concluded. I think in the love, love and it is likewise important the love, both ones can't be scarce. You have fallen in love with a person, will certainly hope the other side loves you too. Nobody only wants to pay, does not expect, this is not the problem that asked for and reciprocated, it is caring on interests to ask for and reciprocate, and hope it is the thing on the emotion the love accordingly, have nothing to do with the interests. The emotions of both sides are asymmetric, it is long, among them the party with stronger emotion must know and feel the grievance, in fact weaker party will not even feel satisfied. In the love, the intensity that both sides satisfy depends on emotion of the weaker party, for example, A loves the second of ten fen, B loves five points of nail, satisfied that two people can only get five points at most, five fen left is deficient, it is a kind of regret in first, it is a kind of worries in second, latent crisis.
In addition, I think the real love should be lasting, but not transient. If time very transient, crazy about for the moment just, I think it then may be only a desire. You possibility see this person on " The incoming telegram " ,but soon the past, have he forgotten tomorrow, of course, love yet. Might send a telegram here two piece people,but,it stay for a long time together, find all sorts of defect of the other side, can not get along, can you say this is a section of love? I think I can say. That is to say the time that it survives of a love, there should be a minimum limit, this is assurance of a quality that the reason why love is love. If under this limit, it is very short, though was very warm at that time, with leaving deeper nick in life in the emotion course of both sides, then it it says to be crazy abouting for the moment, cannot be regarded as the love. I want to be simpler, does not say more in this reason.
The third, I think the real love should be single-minded, but not multidirection. Love several people at the same time, I think this is impossible, it is possible to have a good impression on several people at the same time, but it is unlikely to love several people at the same time. This question is more complicated, I think the greatest conflict inside the love is just in this place. For example, I really love her very much, I love her most, but I like others at the same time, this kind of situation actually often takes place. After you have fallen in love with a person, you may totally still grow to like other people, others are still attractive to you, this is a fact. So, can be on this single-minded question in the love, I think what embody a concentrated reflection of the feeling and want most conflicts.
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