The society is a big book even more

The society is a big book even more
It is a kind of bad psychological quality that the bookworm is angry, it is bookish to be usually called too, this kind of phenomenon take place on scholar more, there are the following characteristics mainly: (1)It is not shrewd to conduct oneself in society, is not good at adapting to the environment, is not good at communication. Stiff and wooden, speak, do how unseasonably it will be thing, make the intersection of people and kind gas and laughable. Often give offence unconsciously. (2)The personality is introversive, stays alone, unsocial mostly. Little but absorbed in interest,it is a bit been getting more centralized often in attention but can't transformations flexible, often get drunk to things interested ined infatuatedly, all care about the thing beyond the interest. (3)Look at problem and go to extremes, it is apt to go to extremes. Complicate the simple problem sometimes, make the complicated problem simple sometimes. It is subjective and dogmatic to handle the thing. Like pondering, illusion, excited sometimes, slow in reaction sometimes, the thought behavior is old fashioned and inflexible, do not conform to the trend. (4)Lack the organization, managerial ability, will not act according to circumstances, adjust to changed conditions. Handle thing, produce loophole often, meet - lose trouble take the attitude of keeping out of the way. It is noble-minded and unwilling to swim with the tide to often regard oneself as, have nothing to compete for with others, opinionated, stubbornly adhere one's opinion. Like quoting the classics, juggle witty words like a pedant. (5)It is careless and sloppy and dilatory and careless to live, irrationality, is not good at the plan arrangement. Does not bother about small matters, untidy, often seem good-for-nothing, lack style. But some, just the opposite, trifling matters of everyday life very exquisite, very overcautious, serious, reserved, in all seriousness. It is not so apt to change that the bookworm is angry to take shape, because it has already become the important component of people's personality, but not easy to change to change. (1)Remove the passive self- defence mechanism. It is a kind of special psychological function that the people form to defend the mechanism oneself in order to protect psychology against the wound, but it can play a passive role. One, for cover up, accord with the intersection of social value and standard, obviously unreasonable behavior or can't reach individuals pursue the goal, often look for some reasons to defend oneself in oneself on one's body or in the surrounding environment, call one's own behavior as the proper and rational one. Good at, conduct oneself in society, describe as noble-minded and unwilling to swim with the tide unwilling to associate with an evil person with the layman; The bookworm is angry to know oneself perfectly well all over, think and change that it is difficult to give up, but stubbornly insist this is scholar's characteristic, reflect that the morals are noble, endeavour, support, destroy shrewd people, with excuse oneself while being confused while being rare. This kind defends and can play and safeguard the psychology on balanced function oneself. But seen from psychological unregulated theory of understanding, people, only when the ones that are experiencing psychological detuning are worried and painful, would just like to change one's own attitude, it is balanced to reach the new psychology. It is angry if if you want to give up bookworms, must fully realize bookworm's angry disadvantage, offer the sufficient reason for overcoming it, in order to cause psychological detuning. So should remove the passive self- defence mechanism at first, try not to be angry for one's own bookworm to plead. (2)Force oneself to keep the human communication. It is to immerse oneself in the books to form bookworm's angry basic reason, do not like associating with people, lack the social experience, lack the social experience, can't deal with complicated social life again, adopt and shrink back the tactics avoided, does not have dealings with people. It must force oneself to carry on communication to break this kind of vicious circle. Participate in collective activities more, experience collective activity and fun, train the curiosity to objective things. Through having dealings with various people, through practising, understand worldly wisdom, know art of conducting oneself in society. Should stipulate one's own study task of every day is the same, stipulate one's own contacts task of every day. Meanwhile, should estimate one's own communication ability correctly, exchange the setback in overestimate, estimate too low, will make oneself lose the intersection of contacts and confidence, will influence the intersection of oneself and activity of having association. Select from the psychological hot line in Shanghai

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