's interpersonal psychology of skill that the social activity must learn to talk

's interpersonal psychology of skill that the social activity must learn to talk
There are various delicate movements and languages in the human communication, if you can know the password in the middle, you can take precedence when associating, can know the initiative direction of talking, also can letting in right time understand others by oneself. In our talk at ordinary times, a lot begin with question mark, how to answer others' question better, this want thing that say under being.
Let us begin with an example first:
You: "Boss, do I need how to be promoted? " Boss: " you must finish the goal that we need on schedule! " Oh, this is not joking. The boss' answer has really answered your question, but may not be the answer that you expect. You can only leave wondering, think whether the boss is to your working and progressing without minding very much?
Let us change another method:
You: "Boss, suppose I finished the goal on schedule, if I want and is promoted, then is there anything else I need to do in other respects? " Boss: "Oh, you should really involve the decision department too, but not merely finish the task. " Just as you saw, your word exerts a tremendous influence to the reply that you receive. So, clever asking the question method is: It is included in question which you ask to turn the answer that the other side will be obvious into one's own statement. Let others obey you " The designed snare " Answer the answer that you want to know. This is asking the question skill.
You can begin from following several points:
1,Ask the occasion of the question:
Under different occasions and situations, you ask methods that the question uses will be different. Especially can the question which you ask be asked in this occasion? For example: --When others phoned; --When being very busy; --In break; --While having a meeting; --While meeting guests; --While dealing with the private problem.
2,Ask the alternative question:
This skill is actually habitual skills of a lot of persons who do sale: Don't ask and have only " " With " deny " The questions of two answers, unless you affirm very much the answer is " yes " . For example: Don't ask: "Do you want to buy the two-door car? " ; Ask: "Do you want the two-door or four-door sedan? " If you with behind there select is two of kind question one,can't getting more unable to refuse by you when lasting people of issue.
3,Ask the concrete content:
The question that don't ask and is too suffused with, the answer because of these is not often essential, you can not get the valuable answer. So, try hard to ask the concrete content that you care about.
4,Confirm whether you have understood that answer:
If the question is very important, you must confirm whether you understand and answer repeatedly, you can confirm the answer that you hear by following method: --Repeat: "Oh, you mean if X and Y happen, Z will happen. Right? " --Can't pretend to know: " OK, you can explain again (I only want to confirm whether I understand) ? " --Change and do one's own words and say: "Eh, right. If X and Y happen, I should expect Z will happen, because " Use the word different from persons who answer, and the words that thought you are added behind. Even if the thing that you thought may not appear in conversation, but, in addition, it will make this talk more valuable if you said.
Ask the question is an art too, among them there are a lot of skills, the above is only several key points. When you will ask the question next time, there is no harm in changing a way to put questions, believe you will have new experience and harvest.
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