The social activity listens attentively to very important _'s interpersonal psychology of the etiquette

The social activity listens attentively to very important _'s interpersonal psychology of the etiquette
Pay attention to, listen to others attentively, can also think what that say that oneself want at the same time, put one's own thought in order, look for the appropriate words and phrases, in order to express one's own opinion improving, leave a distinct impression on somebody.




Common people incline to influence others with one's own opinion, view, emotion in talk, therefore does not often stop discussing, does not seem so unable to achieve the goal of talking. In fact, talk with people, only becoming a good speaker might not succeed, must also become a good audience. There are only persons who is good at listening to, just understand ldquo; If three of us are walking together, at least one of the other two is good enough to be my teacher rdquo; Reason,it is learn wildly from other's strong points to last all chance, oneselves abundant, and can leave to impressions good that others pay attention to manners.

Pay attention to, listen to others attentively, can also think what that say that oneself want at the same time, put one's own thought in order, look for the appropriate words and phrases, in order to express one's own opinion improving, leave a distinct impression on somebody. So, from a certain opinion, the person welcomed in the social life by everybody, the person that everybody likes talking with it, not merely lie in he is articulate, and the important one is that he will hear. Because only say as well as hear and can meet the needs of both sides in talk, also only so, could make talk go on smoothly. If just think of oneself and say, does not want to hear from the other side, ldquo when must talk; rdquo of the selfish one; ,Will certainly be kept outside of the door.

Meanwhile, can also understand the other side (the persons who speak to listen to now) Really understand you (the persons who spoke just now) Meaning of speaking. Listen, can obtain essential information. Pay attention to listening to others' speech, content, tone, expression of speaking from him, can understand the other side's need, attitude, expecting and personality from it, they will near to you naturally, in this way you can carry on thoughts communication with a lot of people, establish more extensive interpersonal relationships.

Foreign country once had proverbs to speak ldquo; Say, listen to rdquo in ten minutes in ten seconds; . In people's face-to-face talk, it is unity of opposites to tell and listen to, go to hear conscientiously, can achieve the good talk result. Because of hearing, can meet demands of the other side too. Listen to the talk of the other side conscientiously, it is to a kind of respect of the persons who speak, can meet demands of the other side to a certain extent, can make people's contacts, talk more effective at the same time, the relation between each other is more harmonious. Can listen attentively to the talk of the other side patiently, mean telling the other side ldquo; You are that one is worth my listening attentively to the person that you spoke rdquo; ,Can improve the self-esteem of the other side virtually like this, strengthen the mutual emotion. On the contrary, the other side has not finished spoken yet, you can not listen to, this is aptest to make the other side's self-esteem baffled.

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