70% of the old men retreat but half turn into and pay out of one's pocket a nurse endlessly

70% of the old men retreat but half turn into and pay out of one's pocket a nurse endlessly
This newspaper put out the old man to bring the child serial report since March 25, more than 300 persons threw into the hot line of this newspaper by yesterday, tell one's own story and view, at the every the intersection of website and forum, net friend opinions vary even. Stand up synthetically and look, the tape child of the old man appears vividly and is like the back this life, mainly launch around such three key questions:
First, from older generation's angle to say why seventy percent of the old men retreat than have, continue paying out of one's pocket and working hard for the younger generation?
One of its, in our country's tradition, old man's upper leaf daughter brings the child, has already been generally used to it as one; Two of its, have pity on hearts of parents all over the world, place on people of children one and look thick, hope they live a happier and happier life. The old man looks after children for children, some or all give up the life of one's own old age, also want to lighten various burdens for children.
Second, from young parents' generation to say why let old man bring child? Can think naturally, with one's heart at peace?
In the young people who are interviewed, more than half young people all have difficulties: The work is too busy, the competition is large in pressure, have to entrust the child to the old man. Indeed, it is present young for parents one generation getting getting getting more tired more enough more really even,on support wanting for parentses of both sides, playing child should raise the adult, must struggle hard for the personal development in the middle, create one's own stage . But as parents, certainly can't act as the master asking only others to do,but without himself in the face of the child - --No matter ignore .
Third, produce the difference, conflict in the course of taking the child, how do two generations of persons communicate and solve?
Two generations of persons always present some difference contradictions while educating children. Difference the display until how about educate the intersection of child and mainly. If this kind of difference can not be got, it is circulated that will be malignant, grow in intensity . The questionnaire reveals, two generations of people do not have excessive fork of appearance only until twenty percent in taking children, after difference appeared, there are only 50% of the families, the opinion that can reach an agreement finally through communicating. This data, should obviously cause the high attention.
And besides the three basic problems, other problems are mixed and mixed to be together, let the old man lead the child's situation to develop more complicatedly, for example the old men of both sides are striving to take children, make children in a dilemma; For example whose parents children care brings better, keep disputing; How to be done to take the child's relevant expenses? How is the question done accidents happened to to take children? Wait a moment . So in calling the hot-line of this newspaper, many people express the old man leads the child's contradiction conflict to even cause couple to divorce, children and parents fall out.
Though it is complicated for the old man to bring the child situation of this phenomenon, problematic, in a key problem " L At old man lead child's pros and cons weigh" ,50% feel that it is very difficult to weigh, thought " L The advantages outweigh the disadvantages " R Opinion defeat " L The fraud is greater than the profit " R Rank the second. The person who do in the test of reality, worth us alarm and review, instead of in mire to get deeply stuck in the question, in the face of cherish heart to blame the rancour each by difference, might as well face contradictorily, coordinates the conflict, if the family lives in harmony, all affairs will prosper to look for the harmonious solution.
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