Husband's dream has reached the former girl friend

Husband's dream has reached the former girl friend
Q: My husband is five years older than I, we had just got married half a year ago, our emotion is very good. One day, he tells me a dream of his: His former girl friend comes to look for him, he says he has already got married, he can only have a choice, he chooses me. After I have heard, very sad, the cause seeming it is a marriage that I have thought, he has chosen me. The marriage, as the only reason to maintain the emotion that I do not want to let. He may know I think of so much, should I discuss with the husband? Doctor Shen answers: Can find out, you worry about husband's former girl friend, still in his mind, such worry is understandable. The woman values very much in love " The position in his mind " ,behind at dream that hear been husbanded, it be might feel by one's own " the status " youed Have received " Threaten " . You know, " status " of relying on the marriage to keep It is not firm, you hope to use the emotion, but not responsibility comes to keep the relation between two people, consolidate one's own position. In fact, you know you " the emotion is very good " ,It is just unable to restrain the appearance that worry about, whether talk to him, if start from and receive a commitment or explanation, if Israel got rid of the purpose to worry about, " discussed " It might not be a good method, because he may understand why you regard dreamland as reality. Afraid it is a kind of normal phenomenon that everybody can experience, though it is unpleasant, but can point out you in its existence, what kind of hopes you have. Restrain and afraid that can not make the hope realize, so it can not restrain, only the hope has been satisfied, it will disappear. According to present situation, you should talk to husband, but the more important is " talks love " ,This, I speak more, from this periods after getting married such as love, you understand him most, are most clear too how to strengthen the emotion, it is believed that you are able to do well.

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