The husband " the sex is abnormal " The manageress appears in source

The husband, " the sex is abnormal " The manageress appears in source
Such as HuaiLi Zhang, outside the window lay dense light rain, one the intersection of appearance and pretty, tall young married woman, carrying an exquisite small bag on the arm, has come into the clinic hall, then gaze arounding, irresolute look, seem her to be laden with anxiety. The young married woman is Li Xin, worked in one bank, got married with line manager Chen XinJun of one company upon somebody's introduction seven years ago. Couple's emotion is fair after marriage, the sexual life is relatively harmonious too, there is a six -year-old daughter now under the knee. Husband understand some sex knowledge, the same branch of a family each time in the past, Xin Li will obtain that kind float, want feeling of the celestial being, this makes her very satisfied. But four months ago, Li Xin finds the husband became odd suddenly, the the same branch of a family required her to wear the clothes each time, prelude of stroking, kiss, flirting,etc. that must be done in the past has not been done without exception, and no matter feeling of wife, come piece " bend at the hard overlord " each time . Developed into and always trussed up the wife's hand and the foot on the bed later, it seems that he has an interest even more to do it in this way, more comfortable, but Xin Li have one's mind filled with hurt and wronged, unwilling to do it in this way, break husband again, have sexual intercourse on the heart having a kind of feeling raped each time, really too deep for tears, that the fearing life later more and more. The sex in life and disharmonious has influenced the emotion between couple directly, the husband blames the wife for not " cooperating " ,Li Xin says the husband has happened " The sex is abnormal " ,It is the more awkward that the couple make a noise. The intersection of she and one misery unable to say to others, afraid of, say, come out people's joke stomach, also unwilling to divorce husband for this, very worried in the heart. The husband is an introverted slow coach, Li Xin asks he asks too quite a while the obscure hall comes, two people unable to communicate, give her more worried waking or sleepingly anxious really, it makes mistakes repeatedly to work. The past sweet-tempered husband, look like, turn one into now, come back home, take Li, give vent to anger by Xin and child easily. Xin Li think day pass filled with anger, think, suspicious of husband whether he had other women outside, find fault at home in intentions? Li Xin follows the old new army, investigates his relations of men and women outside secretly, but gainless. This make Li happy and depressed and depressed, ponder over repeatedly, she determines to come into the psychological consultation room. "The intersection of I and husband must one strange disease that is name? I have read the book in this respect, feel very a bit similar! " Li happy to finish telling, put forward this question anxiously again. "In the sexual activity, the tropism target exerts the human body or spiritual agony, it is habitual or has partiality for the way as reaching the relief, called and constructed the cruel excessive addiction. According to a case of disease time, weight of symptom of your husband's, the sex psychology of your husband tends to construct cruelly. But the intensity that can not still reach ' become the addiction '. According to his comprehensive behavior in life, probably he meets some dozens of going or setbacks in the work, interpersonal relationships, have started a kind of psychology named ' shift ' to defend the mechanism in thus here unconscious. "Do not I understand, what meaning do you say? " Li asks happily and puzzledly. " as a person is for instance, degrades, is criticized, the interpersonal relationships are nervous,etc. by the setback blow in such aspects as job, life, marriage And then, will inevitablely produce the sense of depression psychologically, under the circumstances that this kind should surge the state, must look for the route of the psychological pressure of release. But exempt from more setbacks, he does not dare to the setback source (the other side substantially as punishing his leader, having a stake) directly Unless initiate by attack, will last mechanism psychology through shifting,consciously or subconscious last one of goals of giving vent to appropriates, balanced by trying to get one's own psychology again. This goal generally accords with two characteristics, that is to say it is unlikely to bring greater trouble to oneself, make one's own mood fully give vent to again. In this way, wife, children occupying the secondary status at home often become scapegoats. " Li Xin nods and says repeatedly: "You say still really some reasons. I hear for the previous period their office has newlied arrive a manageress, it is the intersection of I and husband that take charge of department originally, after manageress come, I husband impracticable, two people have incongruous relation, my husband is very filled with anger in the heart, but does not dare to offend her. " "You with ' conquer ' and ' punish ' way of wife actually in husband, come on, lead to feel self-humiliation and not discontented oneself ' have to depend on for a living ' off, give vent to, it accumulates psychology that stands up to be nervous in social competition, real abnormal. " Having understood the above-mentioned reasons, it is easy to understand Li Xin's all sorts of in sexual activity husbands for being unusual to behave, the relevant problem is just easily solved. "Then what shall I do? " "As the wife, besides caring about him, showing consideration for him in life, should fill in the disppointment of he at work with warmth and kindred of the family, dissolve his bad mood, take occasion to exchange with him and communicate, make his bad mood give vent to out through better route, help him to set up confidenting and dignity again. Need to prove, a kind of passive psychology defend the mechanism like this kind of shifting ' the attack ' of your husband, it goes down to be not only apt to give house become psychological injury while being artificial for a long time, oneself go out of psychological shade of setback while being difficult. Advise you and your husband to see a psychologist, under the guidance of psychologist, the setback while dealing with the work and living in positive way, set up positive psychology and defend the mechanism, could meet new environment, new life better! " Look at happy figure that go far Li, I sigh with deep feeling endlessly. In the past when people dealt with the contradictions of couple, it is always apt to ignore this disharmonious question of the sexual life, with the popularization of sex knowledge, a lot of people only saw the contradiction in sexual life, often ignore the other problems seemingly independent of sex in daily life. Certainly, this example herein is not to talk about the real constructing the cruel excessive addiction in life, let alone say that constructs inclining to forgive cruelly, but want to remind people: The sexual life does not exist alone, it, with a lot of other things in daily life, there are countless ties and complicated relation of keeping one's own counsel, even party is difficult to perceive sometimes. So, if your couple's life flashes the redlight, there is no harm in thinking: What problems are there in other respects? Transfer to selecting from " family doctor " from drgama.com

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