Three kinds of women terrific psychologies
Women's terrific patient has difference of pathological respects of psychology, in the face of different psychologies with terrific sex, enable they or adopt the destructive avoidance mode, or take the constructive positive adaptation attitude. The study on phobia patient indicates, terror illness has family's tendentiousness, but there is no special obvious wound or family with the question. The general physique of these patients is relatively bad, the personality is fragile, and parents are from the young attitude toward them, influence the emergence of their phobia to develop, so that treat the result directly. Usually, these patients' parents have the following three attitudes on anxiety that they demonstrated while as a child: First, refuse to pacify children, require children to overcome the anxious psychological obstacle alone; Second, take good care of excessively, does not allow children to stand the setback as much as possible; Third, constructive realistic attitude. Three kinds of different attitudes that parents hold, make them form three kinds of different psychologies to phobia of sex when growing up. The gentle young lady's straight sleepiness is obscure when the light is brighter, the bedside lamp is on. Though the light is very dark, though she has not opened the eyes, she knows the light is on. The husband stretches hands to her neck, embracing her body begins to kiss her. The gentle young lady closes eyes tightly, the heartbeat is accelerated, the muscles of whole body become nervous, she knows the thing that she fears will happen again. When being newly-married, the gentle young lady has asked the husband, why like making love turning on the light? The husband says exuding tenderness and love: "Because want to see you. " She has heard, knits one's brows and says: "I am so thin, is there anything goodlooking? " The husband says: "It is thin of course? I like. " Gentle young lady utter a word half day, say one let the intersection of husband and Mo Ming wonderful what their finally: "You unnecessary and so kind to me in fact. " In two years later, the gentle young lady had frightened psychology to the sexual activity. Passing the sexual life each time, she is highly nervous and anxious, take the totally passive attitude of non cooperation. She has only a thought while having one's mind stuffed with, hope the thing is over as soon as possible. It is to is it gentle to like young lady deeply husband understand after repeated thinking,understand wife for can to like him attitude. "I wonder why, she fear very at I prepare sexual life each time? " The gentle young lady's husband says to the doctor like this. The doctor demands to have a talk with gentle young lady. "My husband always likes making love turning on the light, this makes me always remember a thing as a child. Although the thing between this and couple is not correlated with at all, I always remember it. " The gentle young lady says to the doctor slowly. "As a child, I looked very thin and weak, the personality was not good, timid and cowardly, independence was bad. Parents are all unsatisfied with me. They determine to want me to sleep in a room alone. I very afraid, ask them can let me turn on light, sleep, mother to allow, always turn off the light compulsorily. One evening, a cat uttered a sound my outside the window ceaselessly. I am afraid that cry and call very much, at this moment, the light in my room is bright, mother appears in front of my bed, she curve lower body, I think she can hold I tightly, result unexpected, mother bring look that a face scorned say: ' cry what cry, one cat can frighten so you, good-for-nothing, say, grow up, take, act as PLA man. Don't cry, will sleep soon. ' finish saying, ' pa ' one sound turn off the light to leave. Since then, mother never embraced me. Grow up now, I think I am still like that, very thin, the personality is not all right, not very outstanding. Do not I understand what the husband likes me? Especially Why like my health? " The gentle young lady's unnecessary inferiority complex has caused the tragedy of she respect. Before passing the sexual life each time, the gentle young lady destroys one's own mood sedulously at first. She thinks husband and one's own such person pass the sexual life, it is sure to feel that there is not fun at all. And feel meaningless oneself. However, the sexual life needs to carry on after all, anxious and frightened that this makes gentle young lady produce. Parents make her set up in subconscious and deny by oneself from the young discontent to gentle young lady, so reject the husband's approval subconsciously. And parents were exposed to premature to hers respect to drift apart on the body while as a child, it is frightened to make her emerge to the husband's intimate act after growing up again, and take and avoid the attitude. This kind of people has been criticized by parents since childhood. It is anxious with overcoming anxiety and can't showing loving care for and sympathizing with to be forced to face alone, made some originally have child that anxious terror was inclined to, had felt since childhood that made family members disagreeable by oneself, can't approve, may often develop in kinsfolks into having adult that oneself abhored the psychology when growing up. When in the face of the sex fear, they always take the passive attitude, reject help, think that has no right to enjoy the sexual love oneself. They often refuse to cooperate with spouse, unwilling to go to improve all sorts of bad relations actively, they have the destructive avoidance attitude on sexual activity. Miss Hu of fairy tale does not comes to psychology consultation clinic tonight, it is very unpleasant to tell oneself and get married: "At the time of the love, I feel very well about the husband. But get married, that feeling has been totally destroyed. Say an honest words, I really hope for the love forever without getting married. " Miss Hu complains. Husband movement rough in sexual life, make her ache very much once, it has lasted three days for this kind of wound to keenly feel. Make her produce the frightened psychology, unwilling life to the sexual life from then on. Miss Hu says, though they have already been married for two years, have passed the sexual life each time, the husband makes her ache very much, does not care about her at all. The doctor has talked with Miss Hu's husband alone. "From the love after wedding, my care to her can be said to be kind, when she is not satisfied with me, "Miss Hu's husband says to the doctor, " is not afraid of your joke, newly-married night is the bed that I spread in the anger anger uneven ground, the mosquito net which I got, I adjusted even her bath water. But I just ran into her, she called, said I hurt her. Do the people with general knowledge understand, where to have the one that does not ache the woman pass the sexual life for the first time? But she can not stand even this one, scolds me roughly, just like animal, I do not come from a place while being angry, return a compliment to her and say: ' do you think what you are? The pea princess? Don't get married if that is clear-cut. ' the result makes very unpleasant the night. " Miss Hu admits, oneself has been very apt to be anxious, extremely sensitive to pain since childhood, most afraid of having an preventive injection. Behave fragily too in other respects, dependence is strong. And parents always show loving care for her kindly, until the grade of primary school six still lets her sleep with mother, the reason is that she is afraid of dark. Her mother thinks, the child alone Sleep, have been frightened will have nightmares. Miss Hu's mother not only sleeps with daughter for a long time but also weave a virgin beautiful one for her every night
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