Analyse and explain the woman's happy password: Is poison of parent-offspring's relation handed down from age to age?

Analyse and explain the woman's happy password: Is poison of parent-offspring's relation handed down from age to age?
Paying constantly in order to love, that was got is poison.
The heart has become flexible, good luck will appear again and again.
Shortly after ago, has had lunch and discussed the thing with about ten friends, a lady inserts dishes for others again and again, explain, say she want, take dish a certain, too shy to take first, insert give someone else first, then has not inserted to oneself apologetically and eaten on the heart .
Having listened to such her, all of us laugh, study her and insert dishes for others again and again, all over the dining table " L Eat! Please eat! " Sound.
This one joke, seem a bit funny, if you have such a philosophy of life secretly really? What kind a kind of life that will make you have?
Heart changes to drive destiny to change
Before remembering several months, my visitor L says saying with feeling while looking for me, now " L Unexpectedly" R Some good things drop on my head.
Talk about these good things? I ask her .
She says, first some ranging from disputes of business, involves several tens of thousands of yuan, if it was before, she will expect secretly, the money can not be taken back, but this time, some of her have forgotten to think so, the result is, this sum of money is more light on chasing back finally.
In addition, she buys the house, the house taken a fancy to is very satisfied, but the intermediary says, the possibility of landlord's place will have some trouble, which is handled the property ownership certificate may have trouble too, but everything is very smooth finally, the house has been bought very smoothly, the property ownership certificate is got quickly unexpectedly too, and furniture and decorations product which the landlord left, nearly she wants, everything feels very good.
Moreover, the child wants reading, and a bit troublesome on the registered permanent residence, she must go to strive for the nearby admission qualification of primary school, that is a bit difficult, but did well very smoothly finally.
" L Perhaps, these things do not matter in others' view, " R She says, " L But for me, some feelings like free pie, have never expected the pie loses so much again and again yet. "
When she talks about these things, the disperse burns joyful too in my heart, there is feeling tingling at the same time, and that sentence at the beginning of hers was hit " L Unexpectedly" R Still bake in my memory deeply, so I ask her, why use at the beginning " L Unexpectedly" R This word.
She answer, say you know I have one habit while as a child, expect when the good thing takes place at own body whenever, I will say first, impossible definitely, it is impossible definitely
The reason why do like this, because she has a superstition in the heart: If her expectation is good, then the thing must be terrible, if she is the getting desperate limit, the good thing may drop on her head instead .
Canvassing her finding, this superstition, it was her later, one of the pattern was concentrated in the life during one's childhood, she has a younger brother, and parents regard men as superior to women very much, if she and the younger brother interests conflict, it then must be that the younger brother is satisfied, and she certainly will be disappointed. If she strives with the younger brother voluntarily, that is to say she has a strong expectation first, then this kind of tape fights for the expectation of meaning, discovered by parents, then she is not only disappointed, will also be punished by parents, father will punish her very sternly sometimes, will even drive her out of the family .

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